Wellbeing and personal development
A private check-in: notice, choose, plan
Name a present feeling if useful, choose whether to keep the response private, and identify one ordinary next step or support option.
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Vice-principal, pastoral and wellbeing
Grace Oyelaran
Restorative work can help pupils and adults look at impact, listen to one another and consider what should happen next.
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I lead pastoral care and safeguarding and teach Psychology in the sixth form. When something goes wrong, I want to understand what the pupil was communicating as well as what they did. That question does not remove responsibility; it helps us respond to the situation rather than react only to its most visible part.
Restorative work can help pupils and adults look at impact, listen to one another and consider what should happen next. It needs to be grounded in the facts and in what is safe for the people involved. Safeguarding language must stay precise, especially when adults are sharing information or recording a concern.
I value resources that make pastoral processes clear without reducing them to a script. A prompt can help someone ask a useful question, but judgement and safeguarding responsibilities remain with the trained staff involved. I want pupils to be treated with care and accountability while systems make it easier for adults to respond consistently.
How I approach a lesson
Ask what behaviour may communicate while addressing its impact.
Use restorative questions when appropriate and safe.
Keep safeguarding descriptions precise and factual.
Templates I'd use with my class
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